view Anchor Points
View Anchor Points selection under the view tab. I'd like to see Anchor Points anytime I click on an object if I have this view selected, not just a barely there blue line that is hard to tell what is clicked as it currently is when you select Show Edges under the view tab.

You can enable this with 'Show Anchor Points in Selection Tool and Shape Tool' option in Preferences > Selection & Anchor Preview
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Preferences > Selection & Anchor Preview and enable 'Show Anchor Points in Selection Tool and Shape Tool' option — it does the exact thing you want.
I myself prefer to never enable Bounding Box. With it turned of I see my anchor points all the time when I select an object, with no markers obscuring my corner points.
If I need to scale or rotate something — I hit E to pick Free Transform tool.
There are some downsides of this — it’s harder to edit area type texts, control symbols and trendy repeats, but I prefer it anyway.