When a linked file updated externally (on Photoshop), update link pop up window appears before the saving completes, makes both programs crash.

to explain in detail; Let's say i have an psd illustration linked in illustrator, if i edit the linked illustration on Ps save document and go back to ai, normally when the saving completes Ai comes up with and pop up window (if it is not preferred as automatic update) and asks if i want to update, when i click yes, and realize Ps file is still saving at the point of 99%..since i clicked yes, Ai can not update, Ps can not finish saving so both programs crash at the end i have two recovered files that gives error of can not open again..i start over sadly..

thanks.